A delicate time where what you do really counts, for a really long long time. REALLY.
The first 40 days after birth lays the foundations for your health for the next 40 years! If the first 40 days are spent in rest, receiving nourishing foods, support from loving people and genuine spiritual and emotional tending, then your health will reflect that nurturance for the next 40 years. If you receive minimal care, or, it was suboptimal, with no real rest period, or it was insufficient to be restorative, then your health can reflect that deficit over time.
Read more about this delicate time, called the fourth trimester here.
This truly is a time for you to be mothered as much as you’ll be mothering your new babe, 24/7. “Mothering the mother”, is what new mother’s need at this time of unique vulnerability. Ideally, a new mother has a person who can hold space for the changes, and challenges that inevitably arise during this huge transformation and rebirth of the woman herself.
As your postnatal doula, I provide emotional and physical support to you, and your family, during the fourth trimester.
The 5 universal postpartum needs of a woman, during the fourth trimester, are:
- A period of extended rest (40 days is suggested)
- Nourishing foods.
- Loving touch.
- Presence and company of wise women.
- Time in nature.
After your baby is born, consider me your guardian angel and protector of your sacred window. I am there to provide for your physical comfort and emotional support, this is a time for you to be mothered. I also prepare nourishing food for you, self care baskets with yoni steaming herbs, bush flower essences, essential oils – all the healing apothecary goodness! I can assemble baby cots (true story!), or be put to whatever task you need at the time I am with you. You decide what you need. I’m the “make it happen” Doula-Fairy.
I provide reassurance, perspective, and evidence-based information on feeding, sleeping, and other baby-related matters. In relation to you, I will listen to you, encourage you to mother based on your instincts and centre you as the expert of yourself and your baby. I am also able to provide you with information and practices that support your healing post-birth in relation to yoni steaming and otherwise woman wisdom.
Thinking about hiring me as your Doula?
Here are some frequently asked questions that can help you make that decision.
Why hire me?
I am an advocate for you remembering that you have all you need within for your birth and postnatal journey. You’re the expert.
I’ll support you to access your instinct and inner knowing as your compass so that you have ownership over your experience. I can provide you with current evidence-based information to support your decision-making during pregnancy, birth, and postnatally.
When you work with me, we unpack the beliefs, conditioning and acculturation you have assimilated about birth, we up-level the programs lodged in your subconscious and deconstruct your fears.
The inner work on your journey is a process of exploring who you are, your history, your unconscious, your beliefs, attitudes, perceptions, biases and will probably be a journey of undoing and unlearning what you perceive and understand about birth, as much as it involves learning about birth and remembering your power and sovereignty as a woman.
Be prepared to question everything, to shed the shackles of societal expectations, and your lifelong domestication and conditioning. You’ll unplug from the prevailing empty, oppressive, disembodied indoctrination and story of birth sold to the masses. Expect to return to your wildest most womanly self.
This is a journey of REMEMBERING what you already know.
What is your responsibility when hiring a doula?
Your responsibility is to say yes to getting uncomfortable, confronting your fears, excavating your history and beliefs, and exploring your inner world to see how this might influence your experience during these childbearing phases. I can’t do the work for you. I can guide you, but when you hire me, you should expect to be the one doing the heavy lifting, this is your journey.
I am the Sherpa, or the guide, while you do the work.
What are some of the things you'll do as a doula?
I provide you with emotional support. I offer you signposts to explore your inner realms. I hold the torch and the space for you to see your blindspots and light the way on your path. I don’t know what your path is, or where it is going, because it’s yours. I don’t know what the dragons are on your path. But together we will walk your path so that you are centred and you have ownership of your experience.
What won't you do as my doula?
I don’t do medical things. I am not trained to offer medical care.
I don’t guarantee outcomes. It’s impossible. Birth teaches us things that we need to learn. I don’t know what your learnings are, but I trust that a birth journey is a gift which transforms our essence, our core.
Do I really need a doula?
“If a doula were a drug, it would be unethical not to use it”. – Dr. Kennell.
I have unshakeable faith in your ability to birth how nature intended. In saying that, we live in a soup of negativity around birth. Lifelong conditioning usually programs us to believe that birth is dangerous, or unsafe, and a medical event. Unless we have received some other more powerful messages about birth being normal, to override this default, it’s inevitable that we have some unhelpful messages embedded in our consciousness around birthing.
The research unequivocally shows that women have better outcomes when they engage and work continuously with a doula for birth support. If you like statistics, here they are, people who have continuous support during childbirth, experience a:
- 39% decrease in the risk of Cesarean;
- 15% increase in the likelihood of a spontaneous vaginal birth;
- 10% decrease in the use of any medications for pain relief;
- shorter labour, by 41 minutes on average;
- 38% decrease in the baby’s risk of a low five minute Apgar score;
- 31% decrease in the risk of being dissatisfied with the birth experience; https://evidencebasedbirth.com/the-evidence-for-doulas/
While these statistics seem to be saying, having a Doula is going to help you avoid interventions, it’s not because of a Doula’s presence necessarily, it’s because of you. I’m not that powerful. It’s because these women (and you), are willing to commit to doing the inner work during pregnancy, and birth. The statistics aren’t to glorify Doula’s. My take on them is that this is more about you, and your choices to own your birth, especially in a birth culture that can dispossess you of ownership. Having a Doula can absolutely help that, and while the Doula may be focused as the central person in these promising outcomes, the positive implications of these statistics can only be attributed to the women who had the births – not the Doula. She took control, she got educated, she learned to use her voice and advocate for herself, she became the author of her birth story and a Doula held space for her to make that a reality.
You get one chance to birth your baby. This is a profound transformation – an experience that sets the foundation for you as a mother and your baby’s life.
“One hot tip I give to new mums to be? A doula! WOW. Clancy Allen – a soul so gentle it passes through the birthing Mum to the gentle birth and now gentle baby I kid you not! Clancy was a godsend. From kinesiology to essential oils. From bringing coffee to making my breaky! Acupressure points to yoga! I can not recommend Clancy enough. Thank you Clancy, you are now forever in our lives and I couldn’t be more grateful. Furthermore, has a way with the new dads to be… very important”.